Lots of us have felt the “pain” and “chains” that Valentine’s Day can remind us of……
This song’s for you! (Turn it up! Dance it out!)
Encouraging message from Dr. Henry Cloud, Relationship Psychologist, on…..
…part of the human condition right? So why does the ego tend to move us into shame, fear, and anger regarding that very human developmental crisis?
Because that’s what it knows to do, quite simply.
For ideas on another way to approach those moments, we have:
A great Valentines Day reminder
from Dr. Henry Cloud,
clinical psychologist and one of OUR favorite relationship experts!
“So, what to do?
My answer is this: own it. Realize that it is your life, and no one but you is going to take responsibility for the results that you are getting, in a relationship or not. Let’s look at some options that you have.
Before doing anything, honestly assess where you are. Do you like where you are? If in a relationship, how is it going? Are you satisfied with where the two of you are? Your level of intimacy, connection, and fulfillment? If so, do a few things. First, be grateful and express that to your partner or spouse. Second, tell the specifically “why.” Tell them what it is that they do that makes you so happy to be with them. This will help them to know and to do it better and more, and also make them feel valued. Third, celebrate each other. Talk about it, but go further than that! Celebrate it in however you desire to do that. And last, talk about your relationship and plan to make it even better going forward. What will you do to continue to make it great, and what do you want it to be like going forward? That is ownership.” (Dr. Henry Cloud)
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