Dating or Married to a First Born? Control, Aggression, & Confidence Levels May Require Attention During Conflict Resolution & Planning Sessions….
FIRST BORNS:   Married or Dating a  Confident, Conscientious, Natural Leader First-born?   Control Issues, Aggressiveness, Ambition, Ideas About Organization Often Need Attention in the Relationship When the First-born’s  Take-Charge-to-Bossy Continuum is in Play.    Empathizing with Their Serious Feelings About Issues,  Helping Your (Most Likely Somewhat…) “Parentified” Partner Let Go of the Parenting Role, Not Backing Away From What Really Matters to You in the Relationship,  and Valuing Those First-born Strengths …It All Takes Presence and Awareness.   Reserve Your NEW CLIENT CONSULTATION  and Begin Moving Into More Productive Perspectives and Patterns with Your “First Child” Partner!  (The Enneagram styles that tend to magnify first-born traits the most are the Challenger style, the Reformer style, & the Achiever style.   The Enneagram styles that tend to balance first-born traits the most are the Peacemaker style, & the Individualist style.)  
The "First, Middle, Last" Research in Birth Order is Becoming Kind of Obsolete. Stay Tuned for More Articles by Ronna on The Topic Of How Family Structural Changes Are Affecting Our Relational Styles!
The “First, Middle, Last” Research in Birth Order issues in romantic partnerships is Becoming Obsolete.   The conversation that matters most for RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS is how birth order issues interact with 2 other important factors:  personality health & couple development!  Also, stay Tuned for More Articles by Ronna on The Topic Of How Family Structural Changes Are Affecting Our Relational Styles!
Themes of Attention-Seeking, Adventure, & Being Cared for Can Often Come Up as Needed Discussion Points When One Partner is a Cherished Last-born.
LAST BORNS:  Themes of Attention-Seeking, Adventure, & Being Cared for Can Often Come Up as Needed Discussion Points When One Partner is a Cherished Last-born.  That Relaxed-to-Reckless Spectrum Can Make Room for  a Lot of Life in the Marriage, and Yet May Leave the Other Partner Feeling Left to “Be in Charge” All the Time.  However,  You Can Learn to Truly Appreciate & Enjoy Those Last-born Assets, and Behave in Ways that Invite Your Baby-of-the-Family Partner to Explore New Ways of Being in the World!  And, by the way,  Exactly Where Your Last-born Partner is in the Gender LineUp and what the In-between Sibling Gaps Look Like Also Impact Their World View. (The Enneagram styles that tend to magnify last-born traits the most are the Peacemaker style, the Individualist style, & the Enthusiast style.   The Enneagram styles that tend to balance last-born traits the most are the Reformer style, the Helper style, the Achiever style, & the Investigator style.) Book a Session for You and Your Significant Other and Get Started on the Journey to a More Effective Partnership with our  Your First Relationship Coaching Package!    
Do You Have an Only Child as a Significant Other? Well, You Have Plenty of Company in the USA, It's One of the Fastest Growing Demographics in Family Structure Right Now. They Grow up Fast, and Sometimes Expect that Their Parents Will Be a Large Part of Your Life as a Couple, Because They Thought of Themselves as Part of Those Adult Circles for Most of Their Life!
ONLY CHILDREN:  Have an Only Child as a Significant Other? Well, You Have Plenty of Company.  It’s One of the Fastest Growing Demographics Right Now. They Grow up Fast,  Most Often Have a lot of the traits of First-borns OR Last-borns – Tip:  Find Our Which Type You’re With!    Partners Need to be Prepared for the Fact that Onlys Often Expect that Their Parents Will Be a Large Part of Your Life as a Couple, Because They Thought of Themselves as Part of Those Adult Circles for Most of Their Life!   Relationship Coaching can Help Move the Two of You into More Clarity About What You Really Want Your Household to Look Like…Our   Introductory Special in a Great Way to Start that Very Important Conversation!  (The Enneagram styles that tend magnify only-child traits the most, and balance only-child traits the most, depend on which type of only child you are discussing – a first-born-ish only, or a last-born-ish only.   Read the first-born and last-born magnifiers and balancers above.)
Understand that if Your Partner Grew Up in the Middle Child Spot, They May Be More Secretive. Compromise is Usually Their Second Language Relationally Speaking, for Good or Bad.
MIDDLE CHILDREN:  Understand that if Your Partner Grew Up in the Middle Child Spot,  While Things are Likely to Run More Smoothly with Them at Your Side,  that:  1) They May Be More Secretive. and 2) Compromise is Usually Their Second Language Relationally Speaking, for Good or Bad.   So Watch Out For the Relationship Pitfalls that Emerge When They Start Moving Their Wants Around Too Much to Match Yours.  Starting Relationship Coaching with Our New Client Consultation  can Help Bring that Out in the Open, So Your Healthy Presence Can Invite Your (What is Commonly Felt By Middles as) “Invisible-Child Syndrome” Partner to Show Up More Directly in the Relationship.   And the Two of You Can Move Forward in More Actual Harmony and Effectiveness!    Interesting, Middles Have Their Own Version of  Being Super Responsible, a Bit Different than Their First-Born Sibs, as They Have Been  Inadvertently Assigned Roles of “Adapting to Others.”  (The Enneagram styles that tend magnify middle-born traits the most are the Peacemaker style, the Helper style, the Investigator style, & the Loyalist style.   The Enneagram styles that tend to balance middle-born traits the most are the Challenger style, the Reformer style, the Achiever style, & the Enthusiast style.)

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