Unfortunately, divorcing well has become a necessary relational skill in this society where half the marriages end in that (albeit tragic) wake-up call.
“In criminal law, you have bad people at their best,
but in a divorce, you have good people at their worst.”
(5 Reasons You Need a Divorce Coach” The Huffington Post)
Don’t try to do the divorce maze alone! This new specialty in coaching is a support system worth the investment, if you are contemplating splitting up a marriage. That move is open-heart surgery for every family member involved, and trying to do open-heart surgery on yourself is just insane, right? A good relationship coach can help you stay grounded and honest during the process, help you stay compassionate towards yourself instead of globalizing this crisis to your entire self-concept, and help you act and move from your real values instead of fear. Divorce is something that should definitely be done using THE BUDDY SYSTEM!
In the article, Attorney Jason Levoy prepares his divorcing clients for what’s ahead: “”Divorce is a roller coaster…you are going to have your share of ups and downs, so strap in.” Strap in is right! And the strap should be made by an expert. You might have heard the warning that I think covers an important piece of the data about divorcing couples:
One marriage therapist said: “They say you never know someone until you marry them; but the real truth is you never really know someone until you divorce them!”
WATCH OUT! This Life Shock Often Pulls the Curtain Back and Reveals Enneagram Type Deterioration in the Unhealthy Levels!
Research tells us that when our relational life is going well, that is when we experience the real highs in life. But when it’s painful, that is when we experience the lowest of life’s lows. These are the episodes where relationship coaching can be the difference between barely surviving and taking a lot of psychic damage, and really using a life shock like divorce to move into the new vision God has for your life! Don’t take your need for this kind of help in these kinds of times lightly.