“When you say ‘Yeah, but…’ you’re quitting on yourself.
You’re pre-determining that the thing that would make you happier isn’t possible. You’re writing off your opportunity for success and you’re denying yourself the opportunity for a second chance or a second act.
An obstacle isn’t a reason to stop.”
– Heather Gray,
Founder, Choose to Have It All.com
The phrase “Yeah….but” just closes down all of the wonderful talking and brainstorming and problem solving skills couples need to be continually practicing with each other.
Relationship happiness levels can be dramatically improved by eliminating the “yeah…but” and similar cynical phrases from your interactions with each other and substituting those habitual relationship happiness killers with conversation enhancing questions.
Go on a walk together, get out and see an interesting film, try a new relaxing hobby, and get your body into some new kinds of relaxation with your beloved beside you; this will open you both up to the change ahead. Then, pretend you’re the investigative reporter hired to really get to the core of the story on your partner’s hopes and dreams! Create a list of questions ahead of time that say “I am curious about this! Tell me more!”
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