Want someone to change?
Do a “deep dive”
into the reality of what that desire is really about:
Body Intelligence Exploration Dive
What behavior have I observed, exactly? And what behavior am I asking for?
Most importantly, am I staying open to the reality that the other person has a right to say “no” to my request, and am I staying open to my real options if they do so?
Heart Intelligence Exploration Dive
Is what I am really asking for here a value system change? Am I able to stay in acceptance and connection with the other person while I explore my own desire for them to share my value system?
What if their true priorities in life are different than mine?
Head Intelligence Deep Dive
If I’m honest with myself, is the real request here “Think like me! My perspective is the right one!”
Or can I experiment with curiosity about where the other person’s attention patterns really take them, and what value there may be for me in that new perspective they offer?